Everything changes

I really need to blog more often...but finding topics (as I really haven't found yet) and time (the biggest issue) is hard. There has been so much going on my life...but I don't want to bore people with my petty issues. Today's blog is just gonna be totally random. Sorry if it bores you.

I was listening to the radio on the way to pick up my son from preschool and it was tuned to the Ryan Seacrest show. Antonio Bandaras was a guest. Ryan asked him what the secret was to being married now for 14 years. In his very strong accent, and mixed up words, I understood what he said and I totally agreed. He said, "you need to believe [in each other] and you need to believe in love changing". He said that people get freaked out when that high you feel in the first 6 months, or the first year of being together wears off so they feel they need to move on in the continual search to find that feeling. He is absolutely right. Love changes. I have seen too many people get divorced and for petty reasons and what it comes down to is that they were bored. They feel like being a couple should be non-stop all over each other...that giddy, happy, high on a cloud feeling you get when you first meet someone and how you feel those first few months to a year. That feeling wears off...it just does. That doesn't mean you aren't compatible anymore or aren't meant to be together...explore the change...embrace it. Change isn't always a bad thing...change can be very good. Being comfortable with someone can be even more rewarding than the sort-of butt-kissing you do when you just start dating someone. You can relax and really and truly be yourself. Not that you aren't in the beginning, but we all know we may not share every detail about our life or personality with someone in the beginning, whether consciously or not.

Anyway, since I seem to be on some kind of marriage kick (blogging about it that is) I thought I would share this today. My intent on this blog was not to be that of marriage counseling, but oddly feeling that way right now!